Its funny how you can view your life at times or the things you say to other people about your own life.Someone asked me during the week after reading my blogs and talking to me about them of how I go about my life nowadays.Well the answer is fairly simple and its what most people do everyday when they wake up in the morning and that’s Left Foot Right Foot Breathe.See not any great science involved or too much of a thought process just a simple few things that are repeated throughout my day.Its fair to say my life in recent months have changed,some might say in dramtic ways other may have noticed in subtle differences.In my case the changes were a must but for some people changing your life can be incredibly toughand a complicated thing to do especialy if like me you have tried and failed many times.But I was able to find away to change through time and also through inspiration of others.Im not better than anyone else ,im not more disaplinded,not more motivated I just learned a few basic pricinples about my life and have written more than a few times about them.
For me inspiration was always a key factor in my change.We all find inspiration in life from something,whether it is in anothers story,a film,a song or just the will of the human race.We walk amoung people everyday that oose inspiration or what some may call our “Heros”.That’s a word we hear all to often these days but what would you class is a Hero.I have to admit theres not many people in the public eye who I would actually look upto as a role model for me,thats not to say that I don’t regognise peope in the public eye that do good things,its just for me my Heros are a lot closer to home.Case in point I was out for a few beers last week with my Dad and as normal when we get together we talk about life,family and other things.My Dad to me is one of my Heros,now that’s not to say my Mum isn’t either I hold both of them in the same regard but my Dad and I have this connection and maybe cause that’s cause we are both males.I see an awfull lot of me in my Dad and knowing where he gets his stuff from which would be his Dad my Grandad is realy interesting to me.I enjoy the talks we have regarding our lives and the things we do and I can credit my upbringing to the way I have tried my best to raise my own son.Its funny cause I always make the comment to my Dad that im now of and age where I know that he was right all along but now that my own son thinks im wrong.It always gets a chuckle out of him that one.So as usual after talking with my Dad it made me wonder where other people get there insperations from and who are there Heros.Id love to be able to someones inspiration one day,not to be all big headed and have that look at me attitude but to know ive helped someone in any small way in there life.Most people will go through there lifes without any recognition and that to me is sad because we should all celebrate the good in life especially nowadays where there is so much wrong with the world.Maybe that’s why I have this passion to help people nowadays cause I want to change the way I live my life and to try and educate myself in the process.Having said that its important for me to be myself,like it it should be for everyone in life.Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it. Just being yourself is a hard thing to do. You may do it sometimes. And other times you may forget or fall back into old thought patterns. Or you may imitate someone else.
And that comes through too. And it may work.
But I believe that being the real you will work better. Because there the genuine you is shining through. Without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. It’s you to 100%. It’s you with not only your words but you with your voice tonality and body language – which some say is over 90% of communication – on the same wavelength as your words. It’s you coming through on all channels of communication.
So I’m not saying: “yeah man, you should just be yourself because it’s the right thing to do etc.” I’m saying that I think being your authentic self – the one where you do little dividing, the one that needs little validation from others, the one where your ego is not running the show and trying to get something from someone – will give you better results and more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself. And because people really like genuine and people really like authenticity.I know im sure people get sick of hearing me bang on about what my goals are and to be honest that’s fair enough cause I do talk a lot about them but for me that’s what keeps them alive and makes them all that more real.Some of my goals for this year are already starting to bare some fruit and that’s great to see that hard work is paying off for me but in the same breath im mindfull of the possible pitfalls they may bring but that comes with trying to do things without limits.
Honourable Mention
I just wanted to add this bit on my blog as a mention to someone and something ive talked about for ages.As for those who read my blogs I have been struggling a lot with something that happened regarding someone I know and how unfairly I treated them in the past.I wanted so much to reach out to them and try my best to make amends to them but I was so scared of the reaction I kept putting it off.Well last week I finaly plucked up the courage and started some communication with them.The good news is that they extremely graciously accepted my apology and told me that they understood and that I should no longer fret over it.I don’t mind telling you that when they told me this I had a lump in my throat and my eyes filled up.Its realy hard for me to express to anyone how much this ment but it ment so much to me.Im glad I contacted them and although I wanted to say so much more I felt it only right not to try and bog them down with too many details but instead to sincerely say my apologies.I will always be thankfull to this person and I have no idea if they read my blogs or not but I thought it only right that they received a mention for being gracious enough towards me and bringing me peace in my mind.I know I wont fully allow myself forgivness over it or infact any of my past but knowing that they accepted me has went along way in my quest of putting to rest a few ghosts from the past.
So abit of a mixed bag of a blog this week but hopefully you will get something out of it and as always im open to any comments.One last thing though I spoke about a Mantra for me in a previous blog and that I couldn’t come up with one but now finnaly I have so here it is.
I will be ferocious in pursuit of life but I will remember to be magnanimous in victory within my life.